You've probably promised yourself "never again," maybe more than once. Maybe there's something you've carried for years without telling anyone, and the secrecy has become exhausting in its own right. Whether you're trying to stop using pornography, struggling with compulsive sexual behavior, healing from sexual abuse, or recovering from betrayal trauma, you may be quietly wondering whether real change is possible for you.

I believe it is. But in my experience, it rarely comes from simply trying harder to stop.

I practice psychodynamic therapy, which means I'm less interested in managing symptoms and more interested in understanding them. The behaviors that feel most out of control, whether pornography use, compulsive sexual behavior, or repeated relationship patterns, usually begin to make sense when we look at what they are doing for you. Often, they help regulate pain, meet unmet emotional needs, or protect more vulnerable parts of you that developed earlier in life. When we understand the root of a struggle rather than only the symptom, change tends to become more stable and lasting. This is deeper work, and it asks honesty and curiosity from both of us. But it is also where real freedom tends to emerge.

I also work with couples, especially those navigating betrayal trauma following infidelity or the discovery of compulsive sexual behavior. If you're the partner who was hurt, your experience matters here. If you're the one who broke trust, you can engage in repair work without being reduced to your worst decisions. Whether you're in crisis or stuck in painful repetitive conflict, therapy focuses on understanding what drives the pattern so that something more honest and stable can be rebuilt.

Before becoming a therapist, I studied theology. That background, along with my Christian faith, continues to shape how I understand people: as complex, meaningful, and worthy of deep care. If faith is important to you, I'm glad to integrate it into our work. If it isn't, you're just as welcome here. I work with people of all beliefs, and therapy will always be guided by your goals and what feels meaningful to you.